Prayer Partners Around The World (PPATW)
ONLINE BIBLE STUDY
November 5, 2011
"REAL RELATIONSHIPS OF GODLY LOVE"
7 POINTS GOD WANTS YOU TO KNOW FROM THIS BIBLE STUDY
VIDEO#1: AMAZING LOVE
DESCRIBE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP IN YOUR LIFE AND WHAT MADE THAT RELATIONSHIP GREAT WHETHER IT BE WITH YOUR FAMILY OR SPOUSE OR FRIEND?
1. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM IS THE FOUNDATION FOR ALL OTHER RELATIONSHIPS
Discuss how if our relationship with Jesus Christ is our foundation and #1 priority then all other relationships that follow will be successful if it is God's will.
MATTHEW 6:33 (But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.)
2. YOU CAN AND WILL HAVE SUCCESS IN YOUR SEARCH FOR AND IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS GUARANTEED BY GOD
Discuss how if we not only put God first but if we make our request known unto Him and wait upon His help then He will instruct us through the Holy Spirit what is and what is not of Him!
PROVERBS 3:5,6 (Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.)
3. THE MAIN PURPOSE OF ALL RELATIONSHIPS IS TO GIVE GOD THE GLORY!
Discuss how there is nothing on this planet that was not made with its sole intent and that is to give God glory. So even in having a relationship, let us bear in mind to give God the glory and if we are into a relationship right now and it does not make you grow in love and in faith for the Lord then it is not of GOD!
1 CORINTHIANS 10:31 (So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.)
4. YOU CAN HAVE AN INTIMATE AND PASSIONATE LOVE WITH JESUS EVERY DAY AND EVERY MOMENT OF THE DAY
Discuss that once you come to experience the joy of loving God and to be IN LOVE with Him recognizing that it is not about religion but about seeking Him with all of your heart, talking to Him every day and every moment of the day, praising His Holy Name, singing songs of praise to Him, crucifying the self and the flesh, and allowing Jesus rule over our life, and the Holy Spirit to fill us and lead us!
JEREMIAH 29:13 (You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.)
5. LEARN YOUR GOD-GIVEN ROLE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND BE LED BY GOD'S WISDOM FOR IT WILL SET YOU UP FOR SUCCESS
Discuss how God has a role for all of us. Seek God's wisdom as you perform your duty and role in a relationship. Do not overlap with each others' role. God is a God of order and He is the originator of love, sex and marriage! He knows too well the function and role of a man and a woman in a relationship. Acknowledge Him and He will reveal to you His wisdom.
PROVERBS 3:4-6 (Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.)
6. SEE YOURSELF AS GOD SEES YOU AND IT WILL HELP YOU WITH YOUR CONFIDENCE IN CHRIST AND THE HOLY SPIRIT LEADING YOU IN ALL MATTERS
Discuss how we need to stop living in condemnation and start living our life as who we are in Christ and through Christ. As ourselves we are nothing, but with Christ in us there is nothing that we cannot accomplish, so why are we in these relationships that do not honor God?
1 PETER 2:9 (But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.)
7. NO MATTER WHAT THE SITUATION IS THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE IN JESUS!
Discuss how we need to remember that God is in control and it is not over till He says it is over! We need to learn to speak to that demonic force that is causing problems in our marriage, we need to speak to that illness that is causing infirmities in our loved-ones, we need to claim our inheritance all in the MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!
PHILIPPIANS 4:13 (I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.)
VIDEO # 2 WHO AM I
MID LESSON QUESTION:
HOW CAN HAVING AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD TROUGH JESUS CHRIST HELP YOU WITH ALL OTHER RELATIONSHIPS PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL
(A) RELATIONSHIPS WITH FRIENDS AND ASSOCIATIONS
I. WHO SHOULD BE OUR FRIENDS AND WHY?
Discuss how many times we struggle with our walk with the Lord is due to our disobedience to His Word! If we are truly dying daily to our self then we know that God prepared the best for us. Let us not be friends with unbelievers specially if we're not trying to plant the seed of the gospel of Christ in them for we might be the one being influenced with their ways instead of us in them.
2 CORINTHIANS 6:14 (Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?)
II. WHAT IS OUR ROLE WITH ASSOCIATIONS?
Discuss why is it that even though we must work around associations of people who are not Christian, it does not mean that we must follow them and be like them. We are not to engage in anything that is outside of the Word and will of God. How can they see the light of Christ in your life if you are doing the same thing as they are such as gossiping and not being men and women of integrity?
DEUTERONOMY 28:13 (The LORD will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the LORD your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom.)
III. HOW CAN GOD USE YOU IN THESE TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS?
Discuss that God has put you there for a reason and that reason is to share the gospel of Jesus Christ with them testifying how He has changed your life and how He can and will change theirs. We cannot change them, only God can. The Holy Spirit will help us and will convict them to the gospel and let us be ready to be vessels of reconciliation of these people by introducing Christ to them.
2 CORINTHIANS 5:20 (So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!”)
VIDEO #3 THE MORE I SEEK YOU
MID LESSON QUESTION #2
WHO OR WANT IS STOPPING YOU FROM HAVING AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO DO TO BE CLOSER TO OUR LORD ARE YOU WILLING TO LEAVE IT ALL FOR HIM?
(B) RELATIONSHIPS WITH FAMILY AND LOVED ONES
7 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP OF REAL GODLY LOVE?
1. NO SEX OR LUST OF THE FLESH BEFORE MARRIAGE. IF NECESSARY HAVE SOMEONE AROUND SO THAT EMOTIONS DO NOT TAKE TOTAL
2. PRAY, READ, HAVE BIBLE STUDIES AND GO TO CHURCH TOGETHER DISCUSSING THE WORD AND FIND OUT IF GOD HAS GIVEN YOU BOTH A COMMON VISION OR DREAM
3. TALK ABOUT YOUR FUTURE AND MAKE PLANS AS TO HOW IT IS TO BE ACCOMPLISHED TOGETHER IN CHRIST. WHAT ARE YOUR GOALS JOINTLY AND SEPARATELY AS TO YOUR WALK WITH GOD?
4. DISCUSS THE ROLES OF MEN AND WOMEN IN RELATIONSHIPS ACCORDING TO THE WORD OF GOD AND FIND OUT BY TEST AND QUESTIONS JUST HOW WILLING EACH ARE TO THOSE ROLES GIVEN TO US BY OUR FATHER.
5. SEEK GODLY COUNSEL IN PREPARATION FOR YOUR FUTURE. EVEN IF YOU DON’T HAVE PROBLEMS NOW, SEEK ADVISE FROM YOUR PASTOR OR ELDERS OF THE CHURCH.
6. DISCUSS ONE ANOTHER WEAKNESSES, STRENGTHS, COMPATIBILITY AND EXPECTATIONS AND MAKE SOME JOINT RULES FOR YOUR FUTURE THAT BOTH AGREE TO.
7. LEARN WHERE YOUR PARTNER IS SPIRITUALLY IN THEIR PERSONAL WALK WITH GOD AND HELP EACH OTHER TO GROW, SUBMIT ALL TO GOD AND ASK FOR HIS GUIDANCE AND DISCERNMENT AND KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN TO SEE THEIR THRU FRUIT AND RUN IF IT IS CONSTANTLY NOT OF GOD!!!
I. WHAT IS OUR ROLE IN THE FAMILY RELATIONSHIP ACCORDING TO THE WORD OF GOD?
Discuss that when we surrender to the will of God in our life then we do what He wants and has given us to do with joy in our heart for we know He's glorified with our actions. God has outlined in His word the role and responsibility of our lives and we have to learn to die to self and allow Christ to sit on the throne of our life and guide us through His Holy Spirit to be that strong man and woman of Him.
COLOSSIANS 3:18-21 (Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. 20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. 21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.)
II. HOW SHOULD WE REACT TO OUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS IN CHRIST?
Discuss just as we naturally love our earthly family, how much more so are we to love our spiritual family adopted into God's Holy Family through Jesus Christ, our Savior, our Lord, our Groom and our coming King! We should surround ourselves with other true children of God sharing the Word and praising His Holy Name and praying for one another. We all are going through many trials and tribulations in this life so let's uplift one another and remind each other that we are over comers in Christ!
1 THESSALONIANS 5:11 (So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.)
III. WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT LOOKING FOR A MATE OR THE ONE WE HAVE ALREADY?
Discuss how much God loves us and there is nothing that He will not do for us. Let us remain faithful to His Word and to His will, surrendering our all to Him for God knows what our needs are and will meet them and will even allow us to have some of our wants due to our obedience to Him. Pray for spiritual discernment as to what is and what is not of Him but we must be open and available to hear what the Lord says even if it is not what we want.
PSALM 37:4 (Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.)
Video #4: A FATHERS LOVE
WHAT DO YOU NEED TO DO FROM THIS POINT ON TO TRULY HAVE AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD WHICH WILL ENSURE THAT ALL OTHER RELATIONSHIPS WILL BE JUST AS POWERFUL?
(C) HAVING AN ONE ON ONE RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR LOVING FATHER
7 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW TO HAVE AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD
1. YOU MUST SURRENDER DAILY TO THE LORD (BARE IT ALL BEFORE HIM) TO MOLD YOU INTO THAT MAN OR WOMAN OF HIM
2. YOU MUST DIE DAILY TO SELF ASKING AND BELIEVING IN FAITH THAT CHRIST WILL SIT ON THE THRONE OF YOUR LIFE
3. YOU MUST CRUCIFY THE FLESH AND ASK AND BELIEVE IN FAITH THAT THE HOLY SPIRIT WILL FILL YOU AND LEAD YOU DAILY
4. YOU MUST SPEND QUALITY TIME DAILY IN HIS WORD SEARCHING AND MEDITATING ON IT WRITING IN UPON YOUR HEART AND MIND
5. YOU MUST LEARN TO WORSHIP HIM AND PRAISE HIM AND ACKNOWLEDGE HIM AS YOUR #1 REASON FOR LIVING
6. YOU MUST BE ABLE TO CONFESS AND REPENT OF EVERYTHING AND PURGE YOUR HEART AND MIND THROUGH THE BLOOD OF THE LAMB
7. YOU MUST BE WILLING TO DO ANYTHING TO GO ANYWHERE AND TO SAY ANYTHING FOR HIS GLORY. GO OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE FOR HIM!!!
I. HOW CAN I HAVE A PASSIONATE RELATIONSHIP WITH CHRIST?
Discuss how it is all through JESUS CHRIST that we are able to have that one on one relationship with the Father because Christ is our mediator and our redeemer, and it is He who removed the veil that separates man from God, where now we can enjoy the presence of the ALMIGHTY FATHER. It is crucifying our self and our flesh which will allow Christ and the Holy Spirit to bring us back into intimacy with our loving Father.
ROMANS 5:11 (So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God because our Lord Jesus Christ has made us friends of God.)
II. HOW DOES GOD SEE ME AND WHY DOES HE LOVE ME SO MUCH?
Discuss how if we truly see ourselves they way God sees us through our Spiritual eyes then we can understand why Satan, this world, and this flesh hate us so much simply because God loves us so much! God had to turn His back on His own Son just because Jesus had to take upon the sins of the world, amazing GOD'S LOVE FOR US!
DEUTERONOMY 32:9-11 ("For the LORD's portion is his people, Jacob his allotted inheritance...He shielded him and cared for him; he guarded him as the apple of his eye...")
III. HOW WILL THIS HELP MY LIFE AND RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS?
Discuss that when we realize that with all matters, if we truly learn to trust in the Lord with our all that EVERYTHING will work for His good. God is always in control of our lives and nothing happens by accident and that all good things come from Him. So if we do things in the right order putting Him first then God promises that in the end it will work for His good, which brings happiness to those who truly love Him!
ROMANS 8:28 (And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.)
If we seek first an intimate relationship with God, then there’s nothing that He will not do for us as long as it falls under His will. There’s no doubt He loves us and He loves for his children to be happy but do we truly know what makes us happy, or does God know better than us? He sometimes will allow things and people into our life that we think will bring happiness, yet He knows it will not, but wants for us to find out for ourselves. Sometimes we close our eyes on Him and rather listen to our hearts which are impure and often led by emotions instead of listening and believing in faith according to Gods word! An intimate relationship with God will purify our hearts through Christ’s blood and will renew our minds which will both then be in accordance with God’s will and then we can appreciate the happiness that He gives and learn to wait on Him and truly be prepared for that incredible real relationship of godly love from another GIVEN TO US FROM OUR DAD!!!
Ptr. Jeff Queen